Imagine this. You want to drive from New York to LA and make a big road trip out of it. The first thing you’d probably do (after getting giddy with excitement) is open up a map and plan your route, right? That’s the most sensible way to ensure you get where you want to go.
This is what dating with a purpose looks like.
But imagine you decide to embark on this road trip without a map. Imagine you decide to jump in your car, drive in any direction you feel like, and hope you end up going the right way. There’s a big chance you’ll end up lost, driving in circles, and totally frustrated! And you’re unlikely ever to reach LA.
This is what dating without a purpose looks like.
If you have an end goal in mind, like a long-term relationship, marriage, or kids, or you have certain values (which we all do) and want to find someone who shares those same values, then you’ve got to start dating with a purpose.
Doing whatever we feel like and just “going with the flow” or “following our heart” sounds nice and fluffy, but this can be heartbreaking. If you’ve ever dated someone, fell for them, only to find you want different things much later down the line, you’ll know what I mean.
Dating with a purpose means knowing what you want and where you want to go, and you’re always mindful of this when meeting new guys.